Accept Reality and Stop Wishing for the Past to Continue into Today

Having trouble accepting your current reality? This will absolutely interfere with your ability to succeed at change.

Think about it, if you cannot accept who you are AS you are today, how can you expect to plot a course for change?

Barb at the bank stated that she likes to be able to eat whatever she wants. “If I see it and I want it, I want to be able to have it.” She has been on a soup diet the last few months which, she says, is working; but, she admits, she is getting bored.

“This is not me. I was always very skinny.” Now in her thirties, she still envisions herself as the teen and twenty-something who could easily eat whatever whenever and keep a little figure.

But that is not her reality today.

Accepting where you are right now is a key element for success. Do not judge yourself by a standard or system that worked years ago. If it is not working, you need to accept that and THEN make choices that honor the person you are today.

For example, Barb may very well have been able to eat whatever she likes…but not anymore. She is older and, if she indulges h

er impulses, she will continue to gain weight.

Wishing and hoping for the past to continue into today is like living in fantasy-land; it won’t get you where you want to go. It only brings you:

• anger that you are no longer enjoying what you used to be able to enjoy,
• disappointment over life’s twists and turns, and
• frustration at your seemingly powerless position.

Living in the past doesn’t change the past OR the present; it makes you feel miserable, unhappy and will not serve you to create the future you desire.

Accept your current reality. This is where your power lies. Where you ARE may not be where you WANT to be. That’s fine. It is your starting point; it doesn’t matter where that is.

We are taking baby steps forward on a new path, starting a new life, and creating change that feels good and brings us joy and fulfillment.

Castles were not built in a day; we will lay one brick at a time.

Your partner for CHANGE,

Coach Julie, RN ~ Nurturing Your Success

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