Do You Have Space for an Amazing Relationship?

Are you so busy that you cannot find the time to do the things you want to do? When you do have a space in your calendar, do you tend to “fill the gap”? Is every nook of your home – closets, basement, attic or garage – filled with “stuff”?

Well then, perhaps you have not yet created the space for your amazing relationship.

Just like a planting a flower, a relationship needs room – and time – to sprout and grow. You have to have room for a partner to enter your space and for the relationship to take root and blossom. 

If your life is filled with “things-to-do” and cluttered with “stuff” such as chaos and financial woes, then there is no room for a person to enter. You have created a life where your time and energy is spent clearing things up, dealing with messes, and being busy with whatever.

In order to experience an amazing relationship, there has to be space for one.  

Here are three steps to create space for an amazing relationship:

1)      Clear away the clutter.

Identify the top 10 things that challenge you or frustrate you in your life right now. This means financial clutter, environmental clutter, relationship clutter, as well as self-esteem clutter (perhaps even those extra pounds clutter). If you have clutter, you can bet it will show up in every area of your life because it’s a way of thinking; the outcome of which is the actual clutter. Change how you think and you’ll start clearing away the “clutter” along with the negative, time consuming efforts that steal away your life.

Deal with them fully. This will take time however, the time you spend clearing junk out of your life will save you time struggling to meet a mate when you are not yet ready. And just starting the process will shift your energy from being in a hole to being empowered. Emanating “empowerment” is VERY ATTRACTIVE.

Before I started seeing Lou, I bought a house – my very first house – which was a goal of mine. I also lost a considerable amount of weight which required that I dispose of my wardrobe and buy new clothes. These two seemingly unrelated events created a lot of space. I suddenly found myself with loads of closet space! And a year later, when Lou moved in, there was plenty of room for him and his stuff.

Who knew??!

2)      Identify the things you spend the most time on. Are these things areas that you value the most?

Your life is a reflection of what you value the most. If you discover that how you are living your life is NOT in alignment with your true values, then stop and reevaluate. Identify your values – what’s most important to you and set goals to start living them every day. You’ll be much happier. And this is attractive! (Email me for an assessment to help you identify your values.)

*This is very important because as you date, you will be meeting potential partners who will also (hopefully) be living their values. It will be easier to see whether your values match. If they don’t – if what’s really important to you is not important to them or if what they profess to value is not evidenced by how they live - then they will not be a good match for you.

3)      Take care of yourself so you can be your best.

One of the most important things you can do in a relationship is to take care of YOU. If you’re not doing it now, start. Come up with the top 10 things that you love to do each day that make you feel wonderful and start doing them regularly. Make a habit of being good to yourself. This is what your mate will expect of you anyway so you might as well start now.

It’s a simple process:

1)      Eliminate what isn’t good and healthy from your life.

2)      Start doing things that add value to you and your life.

3)      Be your best each and every day.

Simple.

What gets in your way? I’d love to hear from you. Leave your comments below or email me Julie@NurturingYourSuccess.com. Without space, love has no room to enter. Let’s create some space.

Your partner for success,

Coach Julie ~ Nurturing Your Success