If You Cannot Be Happy With What You Have…

How will you be happy with more?

This anonymous quote reflects the natural laws of the universe: the Law of Attraction and the Law of Creation. You cannot be happy with more *unless and until* you can enjoy what you already have.

Steve is very successful by any standard. He loves his work, although he doesn’t love his boss. He has a nice house, some savings and a woman who adores him.

He suffers from a lack of confidence and low self-esteem. Although he is grateful and happy about what he has, in his mind, he focuses on all the things that are wrong and what he doesn’t have yet. This makes him stressed, unhappy, and tends to fuel his self-doubt and self-loathing which then impacts his relationship and other areas of his life.

So to him, life is a mess. It’s not really, but it certainly FEELS like it’s a mess. And he is stuck.

And that doesn’t feel good. It’s not happy and he wants to find his way free to create some new things in his life, including finding different employment.

If he wants happy, he has to learn to enjoy what he already has. How can he possibly enjoy more if he cannot enjoy or appreciate what he already has?

How do you learn to be happy? How do you learn to love yourself and appreciate all you have and all you are?

Baby steps. And an attitude of gratitude.

Each day, choose something to be grateful for about YOU. Perhaps you are happy about your ability to think, your hands, your particular talent. Perhaps you are happy that you were born with two feet. You can be grateful for your health – even if you have some health issue, there has to be something you can be grateful for. After all, if you are reading this then be grateful for your ability to read, be alive, learn, and understand/process language.

There is always something to be grateful for because, as the old Jewish saying reminds us, “It could always be worse!” (This is a great little children’s book.)

To celebrate the small things that add value to your life is where your happiness starts to grow. And the more you appreciate life – all you ARE and all you have NOW – the more willing the universe is to give you more.

It is very easy to look at your life and see what is wrong or not as you want it to be. If you compare yourself to others, your discontent will worsen.

But with any situation, you can look at what you have appreciate and enjoy yourself, OR you can look at what you don’t have and conjure unhappy thoughts making you depressed, disappointed or frustrated.

When I was paying off my debt, for instance, every time I had to pay a bill, I shifted my thoughts FROM fear and lack — “How am I going to pay this? Will I have enough money?” TO abundance and appreciation — “I am so grateful that I have the money to pay for this bill! It feels wonderful to use this service/product and to be able to pay for it with the money I earn.”

By doing this consciously and consistently, I learned to think differently about money – about spending, saving, and earning as well as the role money plays in my life.

Be careful with how you THINK about all of the things in your life including how you THINK about YOU.

Whatever you THINK about, creates BELIEF, attaches EMOTION, and creates your RESULTS.

Change your thoughts, change your results.

Here are three steps to get started:

1) Observe your thinking. Are your thoughts positive, moving you toward your dream? Or are they negative, causing you pain and discomfort? Awareness comes first.

2) Be grateful for the things you DO have, the things you DO enjoy, and the ability you have to live as you do. Take baby steps and just start looking for things to appreciate in life. You have accomplished so much and have come so far. What is wonderful about you, your body, your situation, life?

3) Accept responsibility for your life – your thoughts, your actions, your words, your choices, and your outcomes. Eliminate excuses, accept your current predicament, and accept that only YOU have the power to change your life. Only YOU can make yourself happy. You have the power.

With great power comes great responsibility.

Use it well.

Your partner for success,

Coach Julie ~ Nurturing Your Success

P.S. You don’t have to have all the answers yourself or go it alone. Schedule your complimentary coaching session today – stop wishing things were different and start doing things differently!