Living In Integrity

“Integrity is not worrying about somebody policing me because I’m policing myself.”

This was a great statement made by a client during our session today. Integrity is what you do when no one is looking. Here is an excerpt from The Journey Called YOU about Living in Integrity:

You honor yourself when you live in integrity.

When you are in integrity, life flows easily. You make decisions based on what works for you and what makes you feel good…No one can tell you what’s right for you; you know by how you feel. If you do something that’s not congruent with who you are in integrity, then you feel bad, you have trouble sleeping at night, and you experience an increased level of stress.

Without integrity, it’s impossible to have or build great things. It may look good but the effect is shallow and not sustainable. Think of a building without the proper level of support beams. It may look good but one strong wind.…

…Integrity means wholeness. It is the result of being in alignment with who you truly are—living your values, accepting responsibility for all that occurs in your life, and being clear of…the past. Having unresolved issues clouds your ability to determine your level of integrity. This means, you need to clear up what is costing you from your past (such as emotional issues, previous hurts or concerns, anything left unsaid).

Clearing up the past means that you say what needs to be said, correct any wrongs, make the changes necessary so things work well, and fully handle the tasks you need to accomplish. There is nothing left that needs to be handled or communicated. And when something comes up, you deal with it immediately.

…Living in integrity, starting to honor your own levels of right and wrong, is the very beginning of the continuum of personal development. Integrity and personal responsibility for your life is where personal development starts, and many people never get started.

If you are unhappy with some aspect of your life, instead of looking outside for blame or for answers, look within at how you are living and the choices you are making that are incongruent or out of alignment with what is right for you.

Where are you out of integrity? Are you clear about your values and are your behaviors reflective of those values? … What do you need to be doing that you are not attending to? Wherever you are out of integrity, it gives you stress.

It takes energy to maintain a facade.

Make a list of the items where you are out of integrity and work to get back into integrity.

Integrity is your own inner barometer for right and wrong; when you learn to tap into your own inner wisdom, then you can use your power to make decisions that bring you the most joy and happiness.

…Integrity isn’t something you do once; it is the choices you make hour by hour, day by day. Wherever you are out of integrity and not doing things that honor you, you are bringing stress to your life. Your inner voice—that internal mind chatter that continues endlessly—talks loudly when you are not in integrity with what is true for you.

As you start to make choices that put you in alignment with what is right for you, you’ll notice that your mind has less to chatter about. It quiets down. It’s loud because it wants you to take notice of it. And once you pay attention, acknowledge it, and then honor it, it has much less to say.

And this is when peace comes, when you move into integrity and do those things that are congruent with what’s most important to you.

Want to learn more about getting yourself back into integrity? Contact me for a free coaching session and perhaps you’ll start sleeping better.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Your partner for success,

Coach Julie ~ Nurturing Your Success