Stop Having Problems: 6 Easy Steps

Why do you still have problems?

Can you imagine your life without problems? It’s a nice thought. Most of us cannot even fathom life being simple. Peaceful. Easy.

But life can MOST DEFINITELY be easier. We humans like to complicate things.

A problem is a wonderful opportunity to assess your situation. It brings your attention to something that you are doing to attract the problem to you.

That’s right. Something you are doing or a way in which you are behaving / thinking / feeling / putting up with is allowing this problem to come into your world. If YOU were different in some way, the problem wouldn’t be yours.

Take any problem that you are dealing with right now – an employee with performance issues, a kid with a discipline problem, financial issues, ANYTHING – and see it for what it is, an opportunity to learn and to grow, to be different, to create change, to bring peace into your life.

As long as you tolerate the nonsense, you continue to be emprisoned by it.

What this means is that you must accept responsibility for the issue / problem / situation and hold yourself accountable to deal with it. This is where YOUR POWER LIVES.

NO blaming. NO victimhood. NO pity parties. NO more escaping or avoiding, minimizing or denying.

You attracted this person / situation / thing into your life. Now it’s time to deal with it.

And deal with it in a way that prevents problems like this from coming into your life ever again. This means you don’t just fix the problem, but you become someone who doesn’t allow or tolerate this kind of nonsense in your life.

The path to NO MORE PROBLEMS:

1) Identify your problems and the situations giving you stress. Where are you frustrated, fed up, tired, or otherwise wishing it would go away? What are you avoiding dealing with or running away from?

2) Accept responsibility for the problem. It’s yours to deal with. Unless it isn’t your problem, in which case that IS your problem! Give it back to whomever it belongs to and stop taking on other people’s stuff! Let them be responsible for their own problems. Life is challenging enough…

3)  What would you like your situation to be like instead? What would make life wonderful / easy / peaceful (whatever you seek)? What’s the vision you have for success? You need to know what you want in order to create a plan of action for achieving it.

4) What do you need to do, what choices – even tough choices – do you need to make in order to eliminate the problem? Make a list of choices available to you and action steps you could take. Why a list? Because often we get too stuck on thinking there is only ONE way. If you brainstorm, then you open yourself up to possibilities that you didn’t realize existed.

5) What skills are you lacking in order to make the tough choices? Do you need to learn how to confront employees poor performance? Delegation skills? Financial skills? Better skills for dealing with your out of control child? 

6) Identify where you might need help and then look for a resource that can assist you.

You do NOT have to do this alone. Nor should you. And it’s possible you cannot get to where you want to go WITHOUT help. The reality is that the way you think, the way you operate, your beliefs, your habits and patterns of behavior have brought you the problems you are now dealing with.

Curent problems cannot be solved with the same thinking that created them. ~ Albert Einstein

YOU are bigger than your problems but so long as you allow them into your life, so long as you refuse to deal with them, you keep them flowing into your life. Problems will be attracted to you.

Grow yourself and you will grow OUT of your problems.

Please comment below. If you are ready to grow yourself and eliminate your problems, contact me directly to schedule a coaching session. If accepted as a client into my business, you will learn to rise above problems. 

Your partner for success,

Coach Julie ~ Nurturing Your Success