Trust is Born on a Solid Foundation of Respect
Respect is the foundation of all relationships. Without respect, there is little we can hope to accomplish together – except incur pain.
Once respect is given, then we can start to build a trusting relationship. Trust ensures we both feel safe and are confident in the others’ abilities and our commitment to do what we say.
When trust is present, we can more easily get things accomplished eliminating the costly friction and delay that occurs when we must worry about what the other person will do.
A lack of trust means you carry suspicion and fear. So when we establish a trusting relationship, we eliminate the anxiety and concern that accompany a lack of trust. We are free to do the work, to be ourselves and to produce amazing results.
What does it feel like when there is a LACK of trust in your relationship(s)?
- Fearful
- Worry
- Restless
- Apprehensive
- Concerned
- Angry
- Stressful
When there is a lack of trust, it feels bad. We waste a lot of time and energy doubting, worrying, wondering about the other person, what might happen and often rehearsing worst case scenarios in our mind.
It’s a cyclone of negativity that grows over time causing stress and fatigue, poor morale, a decrease in productivity and an increase in fear. (And this is spelled SICK TIME.)
Coaching Inquiry: Do any of your relationships feel this way? Which ones? What is the experience like for you? How do you feel when interacting with this person? Do you trust them – and do you feel trusted by them?
What does it feel like when there IS trust in your relationship(s)?
- Free
- Safe
- Integrity
- Comfortable
- Supported
- Appreciated
- Valued
A respectful, trusting environment feels good. It provides us with the freedom to explore more of our potential because we know that we will not be judged or treated poorly. In fact, quite the opposite! We feel accepted and this adds to our self-esteem and self-confidence which means we become more cooperative and are motivated to do more and do better work.
Coaching Inquiry: Are there people in your life who make you feel good, comfortable; where you feel accepted, not judged and are free to play, explore, and be yourself? What is different in this relationship than the other, less comfortable ones? Is trust present here?
So trust starts with respect – respect for self AND respect for others. The key to developing more trusting relationships begins with respect.
While you have no control over others, you do control you. In what ways might you improve in this area?
Start with your very next conversation.
Your partner for success,
Coach Julie, RN ~ Nurturing Your Success
P.S. Want to learn how to improve trust in your relationships or to smooth over difficult relationships? Schedule your free coaching session with me today to learn how. It will be the most important 30-minutes of your week!
