What is the Foundation for Your Amazing Relationship?

Last week I asked the question: What IS an amazing relationship? In order to create it you have to define it.

How did you do? Do you have a good vision of how it will feel to participate in this loving relationship? Do you know what it will be like, how you two will get along, and what roles the two of you will play in this partnership?

Keep envisioning it. Don’t stop. Each and every day you will envision and ask yourself how you want to feel in this loving partnership – even once you find your partner and embark upon your journey. You CHOOSE how you want to feel.

Ok, here’s the next step. Identify what is most important to you: What is the foundation for this relationship? You might say trust, respect, honesty – some might say sex. But really, whatever it is, it needs to be strong enough to carry the rest of the relationship.

Think of a buildings’ foundation. You dig a hole and pour the concrete. There is a lot that goes into the planning and preparing and creating of that foundation because it has to be strong enough to hold up and support the rest of the building. The same concept is true for your relationship.

You wouldn’t buy furniture for the building before the rooms were prepared and ready. So finding someone who provides you with great sex is great, wonderful, fantastic, but it’s not a good source for a strong foundation.

There are many people in relationships and marriages where there is no sex – and hasn’t been for years. There is no passion. We won’t address this here, however, if sex IS important to you in your relationship make sure you include that in your vision.

What do you want the foundation for your relationship to be?

It’s important for you to KNOW what the foundation is for you and to discuss this with potential partners. You both need to be on the same page and have the same understanding of what’s important for the development of your relationship.

The foundation is where the relationship begins. Know what you value – what is most important to you, the ‘guidelines’ or rules you live by – and then ask about your potential partner’s. Are they similar? With similar values and a focus on building a relationship based on a clearly defined and communicated foundation, your relationship has the chance to grow into something amazing.

Without a solid foundation, and without similar values, there’s little chance for the relationship to be all you want it to be.

Please share your comments and questions below. I love to hear from you!

Your partner for success,

Coach Julie ~ Nurturing Your Success