Where Are You Being Judgmental?

Today, notice your judgmental thoughts and strong opinions about other people. These would be negative thoughts you have about how they are that you believe is wrong or inappropriate or not the way you would do things.

Are there particular individuals or qualities of individuals that bother or irritate you?

Today, just notice these thoughts of judgment as they enter your mind.

How does it feel to be sitting in judgment? How do these thoughts interfere with your ability to empathize or be open to hearing what the person has to say? How does your judgment guide your behavior, attitude/mood, facial expression or body language?

In other words, when you come from a place of judgment, notice how you respond, your behavior, and interactions. AND notice how your behavior impacts the other person and the relationship you share.

Judgment creates a barrier between you and the other person. It doesn’t feel good to be greeted with a negative opinion. Each of us is trying - sometimes desperately - to feel good about ourselves and to see our personal value through our own self-judgment we call self-esteem. So to be greeted by someone who holds us in judgment makes the challenge to accept ourselves all the more difficult.

And our wall of resistance – the barrier we impose to keep us safe – goes up stronger and tighter than ever.

Judgment of others means you are not open to or accepting of that person as they are but rather how you want them to be.

Today, notice your judgmental thoughts. Notice how your body feels when you are in this place of “righteousness”.

Be open to the idea that each of us has the right to be ourselves – to think our own thoughts, to see the world in the way we do without needing to be different or changed or ‘fixed’.

And when you come from this place – this place of openness and of accepting others as they are, where they are, who they are – notice how your interactions shift and how people respond to you differently. Notice the walls of protection and fear coming down because it feels safe to be with you.

Feel free to share with me your experiences. I look forward to hearing from you.

Your partner for success,

Coach Julie ~ Nurturing Your Success