Where Are You Frustrated?
Today, notice your feelings of frustration.
Frustration can keep you up at night. It causes you to have recurring, obsessive thoughts – scenarios running over and over in your mind. The outcome is always the same, but for some reason you cannot change or alter the situation and you’re frustrated!!! And of course, this makes you very unhappy.
Frustration is like walking into a wall. You step back. Then you walk into the wall again. And again. You wonder why this keeps happening to you. But the wall just won’t move!
Oftentimes, you can get so stuck in your way of thinking that it “should work” and you keep hitting your head on the wall over and over again not seeing how you are hurting.
Today, notice the pain you’re frustration causes you.
I hate to be the one to tell you this but walls don’t move out of your way. When you realize where you are frustrated and hitting that wall, STOP. Hard as it may be because you want it to be different, accept that no matter how hard you push, your current actions will not bring about the results you want.
The wall won’t budge. Reality is as reality is.
Accepting that you cannot change something can be quite difficult. For people in recovery, this can be the hardest steps – admitting that you are powerless to change something. But when you surrender to reality – you stop fighting it, you stop resisting it; you find peace and a reprieve from the stress of pushing. And from this place you can make different choices.
When you embrace reality, you find your power.
You can laugh at yourself if you like. Certainly, a smile will wash away the uncomfortable feelings of frustration…
Then take a different action. Turn left or right. Try a different path.
If you don’t know any other way, ask others – a friend, mentor or coach.
When you’ve been operating a certain way for so long, it may be all you know. You need a new perspective to provide clarity and a new direction.
Asking for help may be quite challenging as well (which is another reason why having a coach is so successful). Ask to gather information. Take a poll to find out how other people would proceed. Then see what makes the most sense for you given your goals and take that path.
Success can only come from stopping what isn’t working and being willing to try new options. If you are beating your head on the wall, that’s not success.
First, become aware of the pain you are experiencing; then try something new. Give up your attachment to being right or to ‘this way being the only way’.
Frustration and the stress it brings are optional. Choose a new path and let the wall heal from your banging into it.
Your partner for success,
Coach Julie ~ Nurturing Your Success
