Wishing Your Life Away

This post was written by CoachJulieRN on September 14, 2009
Posted Under: Achieve Greater Success,Create Amazing Relationships

In what ways are you wishing your life away? Just for today, notice how these dreamy thoughts about tomorrow creep in to steal today’s happiness and productivity.

They may sound like:

“It will be so wonderful when…”
“I cannot wait until…”
“If only life was…”

Daydreaming is a function of the systemic mind. This function allows us to envision different scenarios for ourselves and our lives. When done purposefully and intentionally, this affords us the opportunity to create goals and set direction for our lives. This is good.

The problem is that we can get stuck in thoughts about the future and miss what is wonderful about this moment – even if it is a challenging moment in life. There are rich lessons and opportunities in difficult times.

In addition, when you waste time wishing things were over or different, you give your power away falling into powerlessness. There is no power to create an impact when living in dreamland.

It was a moment of awareness when a client realized that when her children were young, she was always wishing things were different. When they were little, she wished they were older. She couldn’t wait until they went to school. When they were in school, she was looking ahead at the teenage years. When they were teens, she was excited about college. She was always looking ahead at the next stage of the journey. She loved being a mom, but now that her kids are grown and starting families of their own, she wishes she could go back in time so she could savor those moments with her children. She wishes she hadn’t spent so much time of her life wishing life was different.

NOW is all you have to experience happiness. Life is happening right now.

Learning to live in the here and now and appreciate all that is in front of us is often difficult. Yet, it is the most important lesson we have to learn. It is at the heart of enjoying and fully experiencing life.